Pay attention to how certain people make you feel when you are around them and gauge how you allow those interactions to proceed. Practice positive self-talk to help you gain a greater awareness of how you want people to treat you. List examples of how you will allow people to talk to you. For example: I will only allow people to talk to me with respect and integrity. Continue by listing things that you have a right to. For example – I have a right to be respected. Come up with as many items as possible. Finally, List things that it is okay for you to do; for example: It is okay for me to say “no” because I have something else that I want to do or I need to rest.
Use the list to set both internal and external boundaries. Let people know what you will accept and what you will not – how you want to be treated. Be direct and specific and people will respect your boundaries. Soon you will begin to regain the power in your life. The feelings of tiredness, exhaustion and powerlessness will leave and be replaced by feelings of achievement and empowerment.