Job, house, family, friends; they all seem to take the front seat in our lives. So many of us want to escape and find ourselves. What if life is not really about finding yourself, but creating yourself? If you think about it that way, it gives you a lot more power over the outcome. Think about it. You are creating your life rather than trying to find it; it seems to make a lot of sense. So how do we go about doing that?
The first thing you can do is to make sure to take care of yourself physically. Make sure you exercise, bet enough sleep and eat properly. A strong and healthy body makes it possible for you to try new experiences, adventures and challenges. Physical fitness helps build confidence.
Next, be sure to schedule fun time into your schedule just as you would a doctor’s appointment or other commitment. You have a responsibility to yourself to make sure you have fun in your life. Doing fun things with people you enjoy is essential in creating who you are. So is distancing yourself from situations and people who drain you through negativity.
Learn to say no when appropriate. We always want to please people and do what we can for them, but it cannot be at our own expense. Creating yourself means defining what you will and what not do and communicating this in a loving and firm way. The ability to say no to certain things moves you toward your goals much faster than sacrificing yourself for the sake of others. We often mistake the idea of thinking of our own needs and putting ourselves first for selfishness. That is simply not the case. Remember that you cannot give what you don’t have and exhausting yourself means that you have nothing left for yourself or those you care so much about.
When you value yourself and put yourself first, you immediately begin to have more respect for yourself. You also garner more respect from others. People appreciate you more when you value and respect yourself. They are not as able to take you for granted when you are not as available to them as you once were. You also set a good example for others because your actions give them permission to put themselves first as well. And to top things off, you are more fun to be around. Confidence and happiness cause people to gravitate towards you. Remember that you are responsible for creating the life you desire, so do it! I challenge you, to commit to putting yourself and your needs first for ten days. Your life will begin to improve almost immediately on several different levels.
I would love to hear how you do on the challenge. Send me an e-mail and share your experience. What worked well? What was most difficult for you in putting yourself first?