Are You an Overcommitted Professional? Not Sure – Check Your Résumé.

Hey there, are you an overcommitted professional?

Hmmmm. Good question, right?

Here is a tip to help you answer that question. If you woke up this morning after sleeping less than your usual five hours because you were up

  • writing that 5-page client report for this morning,
  • finalizing the presentation for your team for this afternoon,
  • baking and decorating two cakes for the school fair today (you’ll have to leave work early for that),
  • planning and sending out the invitations to the fundraising dinner next week (which you are hosting),
  • drafting the marketing communication for the afterschool program for inner-city kids that your church runs (you really want to help) AND
  • cleaning out the fridge (someone had to do it),

yes,  if this real-life scenario resembles you and your life in any way, it is highly possible and more than probable, that YOU are an overcommitted professional.

For busy professionals, because you have a natural tendency toward achievement and you love helping others as well, it isn’t always easy to recognize just how overcommitted and overextended you are until you reach the point of being completely overwhelmed, even to the point of burn-out.

By then, often not only is your career in danger, but a lot of damage has been done to your physical and mental health, your relationships and your life in general.

There are little tell-tale signs, that at first glance look harmless or even worse, smashingly positive.

Here is one little check that can be a strong indicator that you are overcommitted. Check your current résumé! Take a moment to have a look at your CV.

How many professional organizations do you list, of which you are currently an active member? More than three? More than five?

How many sporting and social clubs are you actively involved in at the moment? How many charitable or other community organizations do you actively support with your time and energy?

Chances are that what you have listed on your CV is only the tip of the iceberg. What about your children’s schools; are you still president of the PTA and Chairperson of the “Classics are Cool” Campaign, to raise funds for a grand piano for the music department of every school in your state?

Even if you checked off only one or two in each category, remember, it all adds up and then you add the responsibility and time and energy needed to manage a demanding job, an active family and the need for a little basic self-care on top of that!

Is this never ceasing state of activity, “always in motion and seldom in the moment”, really your idea of a life you love?

Maybe you are thinking, I really love all the things I do, so why should I give up what I love?

You don’t have to give up anything, unless you choose to do so. Just remember that if your hands (or your life) are filled to capacity, you can’t grasp something new, no matter how much you want it.

You can learn to sharpen your focus on what is most important to you at this time, so that you can really be present and live that now. Tomorrow, you may choose a new focus. You get to decide – in every given moment, you can choose.

An honest assessment of where you are and how satisfied you are with the life you are living, is the first step to creating the life you want. Once you are aware of the gaps between what is most important to you, your core values, and how you are actually living, it becomes easier to MAKE CHOICES that are aligned with your values and TAKE ACTION that is on course on your path to freedom and your ideal life.

If you are ready to break free from over-commitment and commit to a life you love, I am your Freedom Fighter for the overcommitted professional, here to help you MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Call me today at +49 176 556 19 122 for your no-cost consultation in English or German.

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About Denise Banks-Grasedyck, Coach. Consultant. Speaker.

I'm an entrepreneur, a wife and a mother. I'm a Freedom Fighter for the overcommitted professional and a designer of Ideal-Life and Business blueprints. Discovering and developing simple solutions to complex challenges is one of my super powers. I write about life and business and everything that intersects them.
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19 Responses to Are You an Overcommitted Professional? Not Sure – Check Your Résumé.

  1. Rachel says:

    This blog post has come at the most perfect time as I’ve been dragging myself out of bed each morning because I’ve been up late working! Time to get clear and edit those things that aren’t important… and schedule in some “me time”! 🙂

    • Rachel, awareness if the first step on the path to regaining your freedom from stress and overload. We all burn the midnight oil, occassionally; when it becomes a way of life it turns into the oil on the fire and life literally becomes a drag 🙂

      I will share a tip that has helped some of my Clients (as well as me) to build more personal care in each day, is to begin by giving yourself 9 minutes of uninterrupted time. During those 9 minutes you simply breath and enjoy a soothing drink (water, herbal tea -anything that really hydrates your body- Why 9 minutes and why drink water? The 9 minutes is something I adopted a few years ago from a befriended designer and coach.

      If I ask a busy professional how much time they allow themselves to “relax” most would say, “I don’t even have 10 minutes”- so I preempt that by saying “You Need less than 10 minutes- only 9”. And most people do not drink enough water, however water is vital to all of your body’s funtions, including your brain’s ability to counter stress-inducing natural chemicals.

      Start with 9 minutes in the morning, at lunch, early afternoon and in the evening. Once you realize how easy and good for you it is, it becomes easy to increase the 9-minute Units to a higher frequency. Getting to one unit an hour is a big achievement for busy folks.

      If you decide to try it, let me know how it works for you!

  2. Funnermother says:

    Ha! I’m not an overcommitted professional any more, thank you. And reading your wonderful post reinforces that I shall never go back to that kind of life. Thank you, Denise, nice job!

  3. Wendi Kelly says:

    I am very careful about who I give my time to. Been there, done that with the over committed thing… leads to burn-out and melt down and unhappy mommy. Not Good for anyone!

  4. Wanda Baader says:

    Having owned a professional organizing business for over 8 years taught me that most busy professionals fall into this category, especially the women. They have a tendency to want to be the super hero Mom and wife and over commit and over promise all the time. This results in stress, anxiety and tons of guilt when they can’t get everything done. Your words of wisdom are great Denise and hopefully will help those that need to take pause to listen.

    • Wanda, thanks for your comment! Learning to ask for and take advantage of services that make it easier to manage a busy life, such as professional organizers, is often a challenge for professionals who fall into the “overcommitted” category, specifically because of the “superhero” mindset, that actually gets in the way. Thanks for pointing that out!

  5. What you are sharing Denise is what I like to call “The Superwoman Syndrome”. It is the belief that “No One Can Do it Better than you” Instead of asking for support we take on the over-achiever, cape flowing, which leads to adrenaline fatigue or worst an addition to adrenaline. It is all about getting off of the hamster wheel and asking for help from our community.

  6. Patrice says:

    So many people are recognizing themselves on this page, nice profiling. Stop the madness! You are a light at the end of the tunnel.

  7. Evakarin says:

    I used to be overcomitted once. I was interested in many things and I wanted to be everywhere. But it left me exhousted. I had to learn to scale down and learn how much I could fit into my workday. I did it with sorrow then, but today I am grateful for the focus I learned to have on teh way.

    • Thank you so much for sharing that, Evakarin. Yes, sometimes it is painful when we begin to let go of things, activities, commitments that we care about. Then something magical happens, we let go of enough of the “good stuff” to find room for the “great stuff”- that which only happens when we are in our “Genius Zone”! Soooo awesome- that is where we really are powerful and empowering to others. Congratulations to you on that!

  8. Aly Pain says:

    Yes, stop the madness!! Why do we feel the need to run our lives to capacity and beyond to feel that we are worthy human beings?? More focus on less things means better results, period.

  9. Our first year of business was like an over-stuffed resume. We tried being all things to all people. Now each year Wendi and I go through our offerings and cut the clutter. We look at what’s working, what isn’t, what saps our time and energy, etc.
    Focus, focus, focus!

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