I look in the mirror…
Whew! No black eye, no bruised cheek, no bloody lip. No physical evidence of the abuse, abuse I have subjected myself to over the last couple of weeks, all because I took off my CAP. My Compassion. Acceptance and Presence for and with myself.
Sure, I still remembered to wear it with others, but I forgot about myself. I got busy and did not hold the space to cut myself some slack for being human, for having concerns and needs, and for experiencing emotions that interfere with my efficiency in getting things done to my own standards.
Yes, we all go through this occasionally. The clue is not to stay there too long. Fortunately, I check in with myself regularly and simply ask “How alive, connected and supported do I feel?” if the answer on a 10 point scale is less than eight, I know it is time to adjust my CAP or in this case, figure out where I had last seen it.
The Dalai Lama once said, “COMPASSION is not religious business, it is human business, it is not luxury, it is essential for our own peace and mental stability, it is essential for human survival.” I totally agree.
And Forbes magazine recently offered a great article on COMPASSION and the bottom line in business. A good read. You will find the link at the bottom of this post.
Compassion is a universal good; we need it all the time as we walk through life. Everyone we encounter needs it and we need it for ourselves. As often as it is denied, the same is true for ACCEPTANCE for others and first for ourselves.
So what is the role of PRESENCE in the magic CAP? Simple, you cannot offer compassion and acceptance if you are not present. The desire to be “somewhere” other than the space, the moment, than we are currently in, causes discord and distress in and around us. We practice various forms of absence; multi-tasking, overcommitting, busy-work and worrying are common ways in which we try to escape the present rather than be with our discomfort. In case you are wondering, this is as helpful and effective (and often as painful) as using a really hot towel on a sunburn, so why expend the energy?
Compassion. Acceptance. Presence. In life. In business. At home. At work. Everywhere. All the time. Good for you. Good for the world. Put on your CAP and carry on making the world a wonderful place because YOU are in it!
Know someone who never cuts themselves a little slack? Why not share this article with them!
And as I promised: http://www.forbes.com/sites/robasghar/2014/03/19/the-power-of-compassion-to-drive-your-bottom-line/