Core Value Alignment – It Can Save You a Lot of Tears

It’s the kind of restroom you expect to find in an upscale office complex; the walls go from floor to ceiling instead of the half-stalls that leave your feet exposed. Perhaps it is the solid wall that creates the impression that the person behind the walls is alone or at least that she can’t be heard. But I could hear her. Each and every muffled, suppressed and stifled sob travelled through the wall, accompanied by the soul-draining mantra, “I can’t do this anymore. I just can’t.” This was not the first time nor would it be the last that I would be a silent witness to this scene. It was Monday, again.
Woman Crying

Over the years, as a personal and professional development coach and someone who spent years in the corporate workplace, I know very well that not everyone shares the idea that the beginning of the work week is full of possibility and cause for happy anticipation. I often hear people complaining especially about Mondays. In fact, I was once one of them. I also encounter many whose dissatisfaction and frustration with their work extends to cover every day of the week, as they struggle through their forty, fifty and even sixty-plus work hours and live for the reprieve that is the weekend.

Struggling through the work-week and living for the weekend can cost you a great deal more than you might think, because you are living out of sync with your values and your purpose. There is a direct link to burn-out, one of the many faces of persistent dissatisfaction and disconnect with the work you do.

I have heard (and on the path to the life I love, probably used) every argument about why it is so hard to make the choice that frees you to be who you were meant to be and live a life of purpose, passion and success on your own terms. Any argument you can come up with will have some merit, they are ALL valid to some degree. The most powerful argument for not settling for anything less than your ideal life is because you were meant to be significant. You matter. You have a purpose. When you live your purpose another piece of the great design of intricate connections that make up the universe falls into place and only you can make that happen.

Perhaps you are thinking, “what does my purpose have to do with my job or my career? I can live my purpose on the weekend.” This is true and if you are happy with that, then you can reframe your Monday-morning mindset to support you and how you can concentrate on fulfilling your purpose on the weekends. If you have given reframing your best effort and still find yourself dreading the start of every week and perhaps every single day, you are not being true and authentic to yourself. And “how you do anything, is how you do everything”, so it is sure bet that your self-deception is not limited to your work-life. Take a closer look at your relationships, your health, and your finances; where else in your life are you settling for less than you really want?

Limiting your “real life” and being your authentic self to a maximum of 48-hours on the weekend is no way to spend your life. You have a choice. You can choose to love what you do or leave it and do what you love. You can choose to live the life of your dreams or hide-out in the restroom and simply bide your time, until your time is up. Doesn’t the latter seem like a real waste to you?

It takes some work to unravel and reframe the stories and negative ideas you have picked-up along your way to where you are now. It takes some work to identify your core values and to align your goals and your actions to those values. It isn’t always easy, but with the right skilled guidance to take you through a proven process for lasting transformation, it can be simple and it is so worth it!

Are you ready to lose the Monday-blues, stop living for the weekend and for the love of life, stop crying in the restroom?!

Imagine, from now on, it could be “Magic Mondays” and a life you love every day of the week. How fantastic would that be? Contact me today to schedule your free Alignment Strategy call.

About Denise Banks-Grasedyck, Coach. Consultant. Speaker.

I'm an entrepreneur, a wife and a mother. I'm a Freedom Fighter for the overcommitted professional and a designer of Ideal-Life and Business blueprints. Discovering and developing simple solutions to complex challenges is one of my super powers. I write about life and business and everything that intersects them.
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3 Responses to Core Value Alignment – It Can Save You a Lot of Tears

  1. elainewellman says:

    Denise, I too remember those days! Ugh! So grateful I found my way to living my passion and sharing my gifts with the world. Everyone out there wondering how to get off that hamster wheel should give you a call!

  2. Your style is very unique compared to other folkks I hae read stuff from.

    I appreciate you for posting hen you have the opportunity,
    Guess I’ll just bookmark this site.

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